It can be so hard to know what to do and say when someone we care about is going through a difficult time, such as dealing with the loss of a loved one. We can often feel totally adrift, sometimes even doing nothing, as we don’t want to upset them even more by reminding them of their loss. Let me reassure you that a meaningful gift chosen with love in our hearts can do so much to help. Whether it is in the first few weeks or even months later - quite often your special gift will provide them with an immeasurable degree of comfort, often in unexpected ways, and is a tangible way for you to acknowledge that loss in their lives.
When my son Stuart died I received a beautiful angel given to me by my boss’s wife. That little angel (it only stands about 10cm tall) has helped me through some dark, dark moments and sits on my bedside table alongside a photo of Stuart. It is still there, guiding and helping. I was given a journal and bought another and use both to help me express and come to terms with grieving. One I use to write to my son, less often now, but still regularly and another to record my thoughts on grief and words from others who have something that ‘speaks’ to me. I refer to them often and see how I have healed over the years, when I didn’t think I could. These gifts have endured much longer than a lovingly given bunch of flowers and remind me often of the people who choose them for me with so much care.
Sympathy gifts can provide comfort and nurturing but shows our caring in tangible ways. A well chosen gift can assist in the journey towards healing and provide that comfort and peace for our friends/family who are grieving. A beautiful candle thoughtfully given can allow its light to soothe and quieten surroundings but can also be a candle of remembrance, bringing connection to those who have loved and lost. What we choose can do so many things, including instilling hope that they will get through this. Whilst a gift of soap or bath oil may seem superficial it can allow for much needed respite from the torturous moments of crying and allow moments of stillness and relaxing. A culinary gift, may seem irrelevant, but can provide the opportunity to take time out and enjoy a soothing cuppa, when those times seem impossibly distant.
A sympathy gift doesn’t have to be morbid and dull. It can have the effect of lifting a mood and instilling hope, when nothing else can. Even at such moments in life, we still experience things that make us laugh, as well as cry. Sharing it with special friends makes it even more meaningful.
Today, take the time to choose a meaningful and compassionate sympathy gift, however difficult it might be and know how much comfort and help you are giving to a friend.
When my son Stuart died I received a beautiful angel given to me by my boss’s wife. That little angel (it only stands about 10cm tall) has helped me through some dark, dark moments and sits on my bedside table alongside a photo of Stuart. It is still there, guiding and helping. I was given a journal and bought another and use both to help me express and come to terms with grieving. One I use to write to my son, less often now, but still regularly and another to record my thoughts on grief and words from others who have something that ‘speaks’ to me. I refer to them often and see how I have healed over the years, when I didn’t think I could. These gifts have endured much longer than a lovingly given bunch of flowers and remind me often of the people who choose them for me with so much care.
Sympathy gifts can provide comfort and nurturing but shows our caring in tangible ways. A well chosen gift can assist in the journey towards healing and provide that comfort and peace for our friends/family who are grieving. A beautiful candle thoughtfully given can allow its light to soothe and quieten surroundings but can also be a candle of remembrance, bringing connection to those who have loved and lost. What we choose can do so many things, including instilling hope that they will get through this. Whilst a gift of soap or bath oil may seem superficial it can allow for much needed respite from the torturous moments of crying and allow moments of stillness and relaxing. A culinary gift, may seem irrelevant, but can provide the opportunity to take time out and enjoy a soothing cuppa, when those times seem impossibly distant.
A sympathy gift doesn’t have to be morbid and dull. It can have the effect of lifting a mood and instilling hope, when nothing else can. Even at such moments in life, we still experience things that make us laugh, as well as cry. Sharing it with special friends makes it even more meaningful.
Today, take the time to choose a meaningful and compassionate sympathy gift, however difficult it might be and know how much comfort and help you are giving to a friend.
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